The following represents a variety of general questions that couples interested in IVF with egg donor may wish to reflect upon themselves before making a decision.
Why is IVF with donor egg a better option for you and your partner than surrogacy, adoption or child-free living?
Have you considered that while the recipient (if pregnant) is outwardly fertile in appearance she is still medically infertile?
Have you considered (if not using a family member) that half of the recipient's genetic and familial characteristics will not be part of your child? How do you feel about this?
Have you discussed using donor eggs with your family? Why or why not? What were their reactions?
Who will you tell about your child's background and when?
While the recipient will be the gestational but not the genetic parent to the child, her partner will be the genetic parent to the child. How does this make you feel?
Have you determined if you will tell your child about his/her background? If so, when? If so, how will you tell your child? Perhaps share pictures and family history about your donor?
Have you considered how you might feel if, after all the interaction and sharing with a known donor, you don't get pregnant?
Have you and your partner discussed theoretically the number of embryos to be transferred? Are you aware that a greater number of embryos transferred results in higher rates of multiple pregnancy? Have you learned of the statistical risks of multiple pregnancy/birth?
Do you know what selective termination or selective reduction means? How do you feel about it? Do you know the risks of miscarriage from multiple pregnancies versus the risks of miscarriage from selective termination?
Have you considered how you will feel if the child is born with a birth defect? Given that the male partner is the genetic partner, what level of responsibility would he feel in comparison with the female partner in this circumstance?
Are you aware that the legal issues surrounding IVF with donor eggs and subsequent parental rights have never been established or challenged in court?
Are you physically able to withstand pregnancy, labor and delivery given your age and health risks (if any)?
Is there a male factor present as well?
How would you feel if the donor provided eggs for another couple?